This is going to sound ridiculous but I have just realized that up until this moment in my life I have been downplaying my own happiness in order to not make people in my life feel bad. WHOA. Seriously … are you doing this?
I realized that especially around the people that don’t seem as happy as me, I was knocking down my happiness a few (or a little more) degree’s because I didn’t want to see like I was gloating in front of them. Like I was walking around all happy with my life? It fascinates me that we (society) can still feel guilty for being really really happy with where we are in our lives – misery loves company right?
But in recognizing this, I have accepted that I have been downplaying my own shining light, dimming the sparkle a bit and there is nothing OK with that. In fact I believe that downplaying anything awesome in your life is just plain detrimental to your authenticity. So enough already, right?
Here are 10 ways you may be downplaying your happiness:
1. You feel pressured to complain about your day, husband, kids, laundry, etc when you are socializing
2. You feel embarrassed or discomfort about sharing something totally awesome that happened to you
3. You feel that you some people in your life will no longer like you if you declare how awesome your life is
4. You feel ‘pompous’ for sharing how happy you are
5. You feel ‘annoying’ when posting all your genuine awesomeness on your social media feeds (or people actually call you annoying)
6. You find it difficult to celebrate the small miracles that each day holds – you focus on the annoyances
7. You find it challenging to bring the conversation back to something positive instead of negative
8. You constantly try to stay small for others
9. You aren’t totally authentic when people ask you a question
10. You feel guilty for how awesome your life is
Are you doing any of these things? I know I certainly am but I am really committed right now to not only live my joy every day but to now announce it to the world and hey if you find that annoying we probably shouldn’t be hanging out anyways right? I believe in a world that is surrounded by people who lift each other up, who cheer each other on, who truly want you to be beyond happy and who are no longer trying to out-do one another in the complaining department.
So check in from time to time, catch yourself on the complaining bandwagon and politely hop off and tell them something awesome that happened instead. They may look at you like you have 4 heads but hey as I always say… be the change baby, be the change.
Peace and sparkles,